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Keddie Burrows's avatar

This is such an important post! It needs to be shared far and wide. Thank you so very much for addressing this truly important issue that never gets proper attention!

Broadwaybabyto's avatar

Thank you for reading Keddie! I really want to ensure people know what happened to Wael because it will happen to more people.

Monica Bell's avatar

Caregiving is hard work. I’m 71 years old and my twin sister and I are caregivers for my 96 year old mother who can no longer take care of herself and she now lives with me. It’s a full time job but if she was in a nursing home they would just keep her sedated to keep her quiet because she is in much pain and complains a lot.

Broadwaybabyto's avatar

It’s very hard work! Thank you for doing it and I hope you and your sister are getting the support you both need and deserve.

Monica Bell's avatar

Thank you 🙏🏻. We just take one day at a time.

Barbara Schutt's avatar

Oh, my, dear, I certainly hope you and your sister can get relief at times as well. Please take care of yourself, body and spirit. 🙏

Monica Bell's avatar

We’re hanging in there but we just take it one day at a time.🙏🏻

Ellen G's avatar

It seems as if so many deteriorate more quickly and die in nursing homes. Home care is expensive but it's worth the difference in quality of life. You're doing a wonderful job and your mother is lucky to have your support!

Pain relief problems are now being exacerbated by our govt. In 2017 the US began to reduce production of opiates each year due to the "opioid crisis". By 2024 the US was no longer making enough opiates to treat legit patients. The program would have expired in 2025 if Kennedy hadn't opted to renew it.

Francesca Cee's avatar

This is devastating. I'm in the middle of trying my best to accept that I've lost my autonomy. The Trump regime has had a huge negative impact on my physical and mental health. Nevermind that it's trump's fault in the first place that I'm disabled. Thanks to his horrific handling of covid, and his cult who refused vaccines and masks i caught covid. I had a pretty mild case. What's happening now is not mild. It's severe. And the federal government refuses to give me disability because the judge said I exaggerated my symptoms and that I'm obese and that I'd feel better if I just lost weight. I was skinny when I got sick. I was riding my bike 10-15 miles a day. Now I'm overweight. I was obese for a time but I've lost 25 pounds. Guess what. I don't feel better.

It's disgusting how they just discard us like we're useless garbage. There are people who love me. I'm a huge emotional support for my daughter. It's been really hard for me to believe that I'm not useless, but I am not useless. No one is except for the fascists in the government. I've been screaming eugenics for years and it's fallen on deaf ears. People just don't care. They don't want to confront the uncomfortable reality that they, too, could be disabled some day. They're too cowardly to confront their own fragility.

I'm tired. Thank you for bringing awareness. I can't stop crying and I'm heart broken for this man and his father. Cruelty is the point. Everyone involved needs to be charged with murder.

Barbara Schutt's avatar

I am so so sorry this has happened to you! You are incredibly strong and are certainly not useless. You are a beautiful soul!

Francesca Cee's avatar

Thank you so much ❤️

Miguel Clark Mallet's avatar

A person's size or level of illness doesn't determine their worth. You matter, and treating you as though you don't is simply cruel. Please don't let these people convince you otherwise. I hope you hold on to the reality that you are love and you make a difference in this world.

Charlie's avatar

Amazing writing! The story touched my heart. I am upset and I have been for a while. I appreciate all the work that you do. We are all in this together. Thank you so much for your posts.

Kai Kinzer's avatar

You said what I was thinking while reading this. And said it better than I could have.

Thank you, Disabled Ginger, for your writing

Broadwaybabyto's avatar

Thank you both. This was very kind of you to say and it means a lot to me. Writing about these difficult subjects takes a toll on me emotionally but I also consider it an honour to be able to amplify their stories in some small way.

The Peaceful Solution-Plan B's avatar

Woke is a good thing

"Woke," when aligned with empathy and compassion, is defined by many as being aware of social, racial, and political injustices, aimed at fostering a more caring, inclusive, and equitable world. It emphasizes understanding the human behind every story, listening deeply, and actively working to alleviate suffering. 

• Awareness & Action: Originally rooted in awareness of racial injustice, "woke" has evolved to represent a broader consciousness of marginalized groups and systemic inequalities.

• Empathy as Strength: Proponents argue that empathy—feeling the pain of others—is not weakness, but rather a strength that guides a desire for a fairer society.

• Compassion in Action: While empathy is feeling the suffering, compassion is the desire to relieve it, and kindness is the action taken to do so. Supporters see this mindset as leading with love and humanity. 

Ultimately, being "woke" is a conscious, ongoing effort to recognize one's own biases and to care for the well-being of all people, regardless of their background. 

Now, who could possibly oppose such a beneficent course of action? Possibly only those who are filled with anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, paranoia and ignorance.

Say it loud,

I’m woke

And I’m proud!

THEY should try it.

cameel Shonberg's avatar

I look forward to your posts, but certainly understand the need to take care of yourself so that you can continue to do what makes you happy/satisfied/fulfilled/productive. This is an important story about the heartless handling of suspects.

Broadwaybabyto's avatar

Thank you! Self care is so important (and often so difficult) but I’m trying my best to find the right balance.

cameel Shonberg's avatar

I was guilty of ignoring self-care when I was still working. I suffer for that now! When i was in the Army, I moved big military desks by my 5'3" self and didn't exercise regularly or over-exercised. Self-care is even more important when you have chronic health problems. I keep thinking that I should do more. I'm finally learning that it doesn’t matter what I think; I can’t do more. I'm no longer going to live alone. Should have acted on that 3 or 4 years ago! Never feel guilty for missing posts because you are taking care of yourself. We arent going anywhere.

mary ellen kuhi's avatar

Amazingly awful. It should be reported everywhere. I honestly may have to leave my country. Stories like this disgust and terrify me. Go ahead change the name to Trumpland. The United Stares is gone.

Broadwaybabyto's avatar

I’m so sorry. It really is a terrifying time. I hate that Wael’s story barely made the news and I hope more people learn what happened to him. Maybe some public pressure can help Maher avoid deportation.

Claudia  Gibson's avatar

@RepJeradHuffman

This issue is something You might be able to get help for.

It’s all so terrible…

It’s Shocking & Horrifying by design!! But the

Pain & Fear they hoped would take Our Freedom is only fueling our Greater Resistance to their savage tyranny! But these Lawless thugs & their cruelty is taking lives Only Bcz They Can!!

Overriding Rules & Obligations of Law can’t simply be allowed to happen!

Someone needs to address this issue under the Rule of Law! Attack their actions directly & cite Noem for Violating the Constitution!

Find a way to Shut ICE Down &

End Neo-Nazis in America!

Thank you for all you do.📜🗽💔✌🏽

Jerry Dunsmore's avatar

The United States is a great country. That’s why people want to immigrate here. Be very weary of listening to rhetoric of people from other countries. i.e., Canada!

Nancy Straley's avatar

I was a caregiver for many many years---I went through different stages of caregiving--when I was 16 I worked in a hospital caring for hospitalized patients---at one point for a year or two I was a nanny to a young child--(by the way I am 82 now so I'm kind of telling from beginning to end and I'm going to be totally honest in my telling)--then I went into caregiving being a cook and also at feeding time I assisted with feeding those who could not feed themselves-(that was a challenge to me because more often than not the patients (in the nursing home) or combative and spit food and struck out at me---at that time I remember feeling overwhelmed and hurt that my attempts at being helpful were being rejected by violence--(I have PTSD from childhood trauma, physical, emotional, mentally, spiritually)--it was my desire to help those who are in a lot of pain and are suffering-- I could not comprehend their rejection so for a while I left that kind of work--eventually I came back to it because this is who I am--I am an empath and it is my desire and mission to be helpful to all of humanity regardless of race, color, Creed, disabilities, their stations in life (Rich or poor or in between)--etc. so I went into strictly cooking in nursing homes and in private homes and Foster homes--eventually I became a foster home caregiver manager--I had to take classes for this position and I learned a lot about patience with disabilities and what they were all about-- I was trained to care for patience with dementia and Alzheimer's--it was then that I learned that they had no control over their combative behaviors and it was then that I realized I need not take it personally as I did when I was in my early twenties---eventually over several several years I experienced "burnout"--(that is when a caregiver takes on and takes in a person's pain and suffering to the point it makes the caregiver ill physically and mentally and emotionally and sometimes spiritually)--so it is wise when a "burnout" occurs that we take a"time out"to recover and recuperate--as to whether a caregiver goes back into that line of service is up to the individual--I have done this off and on for years so--we come to this stage in my life at 82 and I am dependent upon oxygen--I have a concentrator in my home I also have pure oxygen in an emergency in case the electricity goes out--I have a portable concentrator for when I drive and go shopping or go to the doctor's office or wherever I go so that I have plenty of oxygen--I have COPD, diabetes, and I am unsteady on my feet due to meniscus tears in my knees and my back and seizes up on me and spasms to the point I cannot stand for long periods of time--so what I do, it is called, puttering--I will stand at the stove-- if I want to cook--and then I will have to sit for maybe a minute or two until the spasm goes away and I do that and I'm okay with that---(by the way what really stopped me from caregiving finally was the heavy lifting thus creating severe bone losage in my back and thus creating my present situation of how I go about doing my chores etc)--I know this is been long in lengthy and I'm almost finished--but I have one more thing to say well maybe a couple things to say--I admire, respect, honor, etc those who decide to live and to seek the help they need in order to survive--and now I will tell you in finality of this text is that I have chosen euthanasia when I can no longer take care of my personal needs--as with respecting those who choose a different path I hope that I will be respected for my decision as well--I have no children because I was unable to have children because of the sexual abuse and beatings that I received--so am I leaving Earth will not leave anyone behind except for those who I love but who I know have their families their children their friends to support them through their lives---🌹💗

William Elisabeth Cuthbert's avatar

I see you and appreciate you. Thank you for doing your work, even when it was physically, emotionally, spiritually hard for you. You deserve your rest, and to decide when you leave this life behind. I truly believe people like you are angels, spirits of Compassion working on Earth.

Even when we feel we have nothing else, we will know we have each other as empaths. I know it's my work too, to use that gift to help others. My path is still just becoming clear, and fibromyalgia, autism and ADHD often limit me, but I do what is open to me for now through writing and journalism. Your life and story have struck me with inspiration - thank you so much for sharing it.

Nancy Straley's avatar

Thank you sweetheart we are kind kind words I needed them we all need them and that is the point we could never give too much kindness and love to all--it is our food it is our nourishment it is the water for the soul and the heart,?!!💗🌹🙏💐 I have found that it is the one true thing that I have never regretted was giving kindness, love, empathy, compassion, of myself to those that I meet along my journey of life here on Earth--there are times that I fall short, and when I do unfortunately I almost beat myself to death emotionally--wow I just had a "moment"--I said I was going to pass out I am without my oxygen in the bathroom I need to go get it and get on it now--thanks again for your kind words

Barbara Schutt's avatar

I have total respect for you, dear Nancy and your decisions. I wish you well and peace and love.

Emma's avatar

Not alone by a long shot. Democrats supported this, starting with the many democrats who voted for laken, something like 12 senators and 46 reps from what I remember. They own this.

jef frey's avatar

i worked for a man who had muscular dystrophy for 22 years. if i left him for any period of time during my 24 hours shifts he could have had a medical complication arise that could seriously harm or kill him. ice is the creation of demon spawn, from those that oversee it to those that enact their brutal immoral and criminal tactics. can't wait til we turn the tide and they all face justice.

Emma's avatar

They would face it now if we had a congress less interested in their own monetary survival.

Claudia  Gibson's avatar

That’s right on!

When they began seeing the money disappear & Major Donors leaving all of a sudden they were worried. But only about themselves!! Cornyn was worried about being reelected while the evil of ICE was killing people FOR NOTHING!! A leg less war vet w/o his prosthetic legs has been in solitary for a year.

A father was taking & his medically compromised grown son died in 3months. Bcz dad was his caregiver. He was 100% dependent & died alone, in pain, in an ICU. The dad has Legal Status but ICE DOESN’T CARE…Cruelty is the point.

How Is This Legal?

I Hope The Republican Party FACES THE GREATEST REBUKE EVER IN THE COMING ELECTIONS!!!

& Mitch McConnell OWNS THIS!! He had them Aquit trump Twice!!

He seems very contrite now.

But he thought trump would be useful to party politics. He & his lemmings PUT PARTY POLITICS OVER COUNTRY!!!

If They Aren’t REBUKED at the POLLS in 2026 they’ll regroup & try again!

Bcz they have tried every 30-40yrs since before the civil war! They’ll never Stop…

We have to organize, to put people in place that can see them before they’re powerful enuf to cause systemic damage. Before the money can obscure Ethics & Standards.

Bcz the @GOP Did Exactly That!!

They Need More Than SANCTIONS!!

They need to be Court Supervised For at Least 6yrs- So Actual Reforms Can Happen!!

They lost their way

between the FRW & DARK MONEY!!!

If they want to regain some semblance of Honor, they’ll need to answer to The People.

Many were involved in the Insurrection & Obstruction of Justice! They have LIED To the Voters!

@RonJohnson looked right at a camera & LIED! But he’s not the only one!

If we appoint a body to oversee them for 3 election cycles…6yrs,

They might actually change the part of their ideology that allowed them to walk down the road to Perdition!!

Religion & Invasion of privacy such as a woman’s right to choose, Are NOT GOVERNMENT ISSUES!!

They have been used to justify the Tyranny of women & every small group that Don’t follow their particular view of the world.

& It seems Its Always Been From The RIGHT… Studies show 84% of our Violence stems from Republicans on the Far Right!!

It’s Fact!!

To Reclaim Our Country We Need Facts! The tail must stop wagging the dog!

Boycott Republicans Till They Demonstrate They Actually Know How To Govern!! Keep them sidelined till 2032…So they have time to Change! Maybe Humility will replace Hubris.

I can only hope!✌🏽📜🗽🛑🧊🗳️🌊🤞🏽

NK's avatar

I'm sorry you have to go through that.

It helps to keep reading your posts. It makes me more aware how facilities are awkward, if not impossible for you. If I use a restroom that is supposed to "accessible" I notice how they have made things more awkward for you.

Lately I have been having trouble dealing with extremely heavy doors.

It wouldn't take much to make them easier to open.

The automatic doors when they aren't working are almost impossible to negotiate. People don't think about other people being small/short. It is not impossible for me to get around, but everything is set up for big/ tall people.

It is not debilitating, just maddening.

Good to hear you are better.

Take care,💕

We WILL STOP ICE!

Netty

Maya Moth's avatar

I’m a professional community support worker in New Zealand, where care is government funded. I love my work and feel privileged to do it.

This article is appalling, I wish there was a way to support you from over here. I have been especially worried for disabled people as I agree that ICE are practicing eugenics.

I’m Deaf,so I understand disability from the inside too.

Ellen G's avatar

It's so true that people expect us to recover or die. During the 25+ yrs I've been disabled I've seen the attitude in friends and family. It's hard for anyone to imagine being in endless pain. It's much easier to blame the patient. I'm sure there are people who think they would not want to live ... until it occurs to someone close. I live alone so It's easy for them to suggest I move to a facility but I doubt they'd feel that way if they had to make their own choice. I'll stay in my home and hire help when needed as I've been doing for 20 years. The good news is some people begin to understand it better as they age.

Amanda Chapman's avatar

I care for my mobility-impaired partner. He retired from a full service in the Royal Navy, and worked for many years after that. I'm now retired from paid work. I no longer live much of my life, I live his life. He has multiple injuries which caused nerve and spine damage. His PTSD and C-PTSD resulted in alcoholism (which he has fought with a high degree of success) and he takes CBD oil. He has had covid several times, because he believed the crap about masks. He gave it to me once, and I have long covid. His ability to remember new things is impaired. I have to decide what is worth telling him, and I have to be prepared to repeat it at intervals because he forgets. And I have to be diplomatic, because he can be a very angry person. I do all the house management and I organise decision-making. Covid fave me chronic fatigue and brain fog. It's an uphill struggle daily. I find sparks of joy wherever I can. I'm fortunate that we live close to open space, with nature that feeds my soul.

Glenda Kathleen Bauerle's avatar

Just like others aren't getting their necessary medicine to live they also had no right to take his father; his caregiver. These are crimes - they need to be held accountable.

donna's avatar

Missed you! Your story is profound. Full of admiration for you and your dedication to your substack when your health allows 🌼